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I’m pretty big on both characters, Doctor Who and The West Wing, and I’ve come to really see a lot of parallels between these two. Let go of the context a little, and perhaps you’ll see what I mean. Firstly, there’s the foundation level of flaxen-haired, inquisitive, sympathetic assistant roles. They both start out, arguably, in the shadow of a powerful man to whom their loyalty belongs immediately. Oftentimes, certain situations occur where they act on behalf of the audience by questioning language or references (to alien planets and technology or politics). Very quickly, though, they become much more than that and you get to see the altruistic, compassionate aspects of their character (e.g.s, Rose: Dalek, Donna: The Benign Prerogative). They also begin offering valuable input to The Doctor and Josh respectively, who are, in themselves, relatively similar. That assistant-level role grows to become a covalent bond, a partnership.

Their romantic relationships are quite similar too. I have big shippy feels for both Ten and Rose and Josh and Donna. The Doctor and Josh playing charismatic, often silly, over-confident, show-offy bossyboots roles. There is a term within The West Wing fandom that we regard Josh as a tragedy magnet (x). I don’t think anyone will argue that that could easily apply to The Doctor too. But, Donna and Rose keep their boys happy and together and together they can do important stuff. They are both incredibly intense, all-consuming relationships — and both, sadly, platonic for the overwhelming majority of the time. It creates a really enjoyable, playful banter for both shows though.

Then comes the separation and return. With Rose it was that fateful day on Bad Wolf Bay, without a choice. For Donna it was a reluctant choice decision to part ways with Josh. But, it is the return that provides further similarities. Rose rocks back up with a giant gun, and a seriously bad-ass facial expression to save the world one final time from those pesky daleks! Donna, meanwhile, defies Josh’s self-destructing move of rejecting her and returns to save America once again from those pesky Republicans in the general elections! I did just inadvertently refer to Republicans as daleks, but nevermind. They both return with boldness, refusal to passively accept what ‘should’ happen or how they should behave. They fight for what they believe in, and just prove to complete an arc that spans from happy-go-lucky assistant to seriously fierce head bitch in charge. And, a final parallel is that I love them both very much.

To the people reacting to ‘Does it need saying?’ with anger…

Don’t you think there’s a difference between saying it in Doomsday, and saying it in Journey’s End? A difference that makes it heroic not to say it when he is finally given the chance once more.

If the Doctor says, “I love you” as he’s saying goodbye in Doomsday - both knowing that it would be impossible to bridge the gap, it is what she longs to here, what she believes and the most honest of goodbyes. It would have given her some degree of closure I’m sure, which is why I think he goes to say it. There’s something to be said for the lack of distinct choice in this scene.

If the Doctor says it in Journey’s End, as they are physically together, it is different. It is the choice that they can’t go back off in the TARDIS together. Time apart has allowed the Doctor to rationalise the future of their would-be relationship. She can’t stay with him forever. And here he is, able to give her another Doctor, just like him. One that will grow old with her. If he was to say “I love you”, it would be an irresistible invitation back into the TARDIS. I think he knows he can’t say it. I think he knows it has to come from the other Doctor, and only the other Doctor.

He doesn’t refuse her it to be cruel. He does love her.

But sometimes there’s knowing when not to say.